If good hands are the result of a good frame of mind, your mind has to know when to resist and when to give in. This is at the very moment the horse gives in! Use your hands intermittently. Be still as soon as the horse answers and only use them again if something changes and you need a correction.
Ask – if the horse does not react, stop and immediately start again. If he gives, you give and then immediately cease all action, thereby keeping the stability required to allow your horse forward.
Practice mostly doing nothing!
Make adjustments when you FEEL the need, then go back to doing nothing.